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No.7988

Overheard some of my friends (?) gossiping about me today for the first time ever - before if people have beef with me they would just insult me to my face.

They were complaining that I "overshare" about my personal life, which is probably true. I'm a very boring person aside from my active personal life so I guess I don't have much else to talk about. Even if their complaints are accurate though, it still feels bad man.

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  No.7989

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Man, that really is like kicking dead whales down the beach. Maybe just tackle the issue head on and talk to your "buds" about it.

  No.7990

>>7989
>s u c k s
>is like kicking dead whales down the beach
cmon now

  No.7999

>>7990
welcome to lainchan!

  No.8001

kicking dead whales down a beach is actually really hard to do. Sometimes they explode and soykaf so you really need to control the force applied along with superior technique.

>>7988
Well, I dunno what you're sharing but if you always come in the room with some negative soykaf to say it gets emotionally draining tbh. Humblebragging is another annoying thing that just pisses people off but not enough to snap at you.

Still is like kicking dead whales down the beach to hear that my dear Lainon but, people can be just downright soykafty. Even the ones that claim they are your friend...

  No.8002

>>7988
Not sure what to tell you fam. It really depends on the type of stuff you're sharing and what they said when they thought you were gone.

It's possible that they felt uncomfortable telling you directly since you're sharing info on your personal life and they don't want to come across harshly.

Even if it is like kicking dead whales down the beach staying optimistic is like riding dolphins down the coast.

  No.8008

>>7988
It would really help if you told us what exactly do you share with them.

I don't understand these people even if you are negative about everything.

The only kind of talk that pisses me off is the kind when one of your friends starts doing something or read about it (like started working out, read about how you should live) and he immediately starts applying it to you and telling you how you should get better with this and that, even when they barely do it themselves.

Or the best kind of talk is when people assume you do nothing all day, so you should start doing what they do, because you don't do anything at home, right?
Or the kind when they unironically tell you that the stuff you do is a waste of time and that you should stop doing it and start doing what they do.
I sometimes wonder what kind of "friends" I have.

  No.8030

>>8008

I'm gay, and my friends are also gay.

Since I don't have anyone else to talk to about it, I talk about "guy stuff". Like, if I hook up with someone I'll tell them the story, or if I have a crush on someone or whatever..

And I guess that was too personal for them. But like I said, I don't have anyone else (except for the internet) to talk about that stuff with.

  No.9148

It's not about what comes out of your mouth, it's about what enters their ears

  No.10430

>>7988
If you want to improve, you should work on finding other things to talk about. Talk about things like common opinions and abstract knowledge.

  No.10441

"Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people."

though i actually do gossip and talk about people a lot unfortunately.

do they give any cues that they dont want to hear your stories while you are telling them? like obvious boredom and interrupting frequently? if not its really on them. if they pretend to be super interested in your story but arent then what the hell. at the very least if i was complaining about someone oversharing when they told a story again id make it clear i wasnt that interested.

on the other hand if they are making it clear and you arent picking up on it, its a problem with you not paying attention, listening or caring. sometimes i overshare with friends back home i dont see anymore despite knowing they dont want to hear it just because i dont care about them that much anymore and i just want to vent.